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I did not write the last 2 logs because I’m struggling with Jessica and Erika being gone or because I’m depressed. The ONLY reason I wrote what I did is because it was the one-year anniversary of them coming home to us. Aren’t anniversaries a time you look back and reflect? I don’t believe it’s abnormal to do that. Don’t most people remember anniversaries by reflecting on the reason for the anniversary? If you look further back on the website, you’ll see that I have barely mentioned them in quite some time. You’ll have to go back to December 2008 to March of 2009 to really start reading about them again. Before you call me crazy or needing therapy, consider what you would do. On an anniversary of losing someone, what would you do – wouldn’t you have some emotion about it? Don’t you celebrate birthdays and anniversaries in your family? Since I can’t talk to my own family about Jessica and Erika – really, I don’t have anyone to talk to about them, so I just wrote it down. There are few people who know what happened regarding our adoption attempt and even fewer that have SOME of the FACTS of what really happened. Even those who would consider themselves in the ‘even fewer’ group really only have one side of the story. I wrote what I did because I was remembering December 20th of last year. What I wrote was only a glimpse of my side. Remember Paul Harvey’s “The rest of the story” and him delving deeper into the life of someone you have heard about but weren’t aware of this part of their life? The last two blog entries are my ‘rest of the story.’ (I know I mixed up quotation marks, but I wasn’t very good in English class and don’t know the rules for using them). I won’t continue writing about Jessica and Erika very much – probably just on birthdays, anniversaries of when they came home to us and maybe when they were taken away.

There is likely some of you who may consider yourself in the ‘even fewer’ group mentioned above, that read my last two blogs and see it as confirmation that I’m stuck in the past, depressed, or it’s proof I’m a jerk, but you’re basing that on the other side of the story that you’ve heard for so long. I don’t expect to sway anyone with what I wrote because that other side of the story has been out there for such a long time. That other side of the story has been based on things that just are not true for so long, they are believed without question. I’ve heard it talked about politicians or maybe the global warming crowd – if you tell lies long enough they become truth. I may not go quite so far to say that the one sided story that’s been told for the last year contain lies told on purpose, but nevertheless, much or maybe even most of it is not true, or at least it’s not the complete story. My two ‘rest of the story’ blogs were just an attempt to bring to light what I saw. If you believe without question what one person tells you as the ‘true facts’ of what happened – and you base your opinions on that…what if the story you’ve been told is false, or at least not complete?
There is a bible verse warning us not to base things on one person’s story or side – but first get the facts:  Proverbs 18:13

¹³ He who answers before listening—
that is his folly and his shame.

Then, hear both sides of the story before coming to a conclusion: Proverbs 18:17

¹⁷ The first to present his case seems right,
till another comes forward and questions him.

So, in conclusion, I believe it’s perfectly normal to remember events on their anniversary. We do it all the time, for both happy and sad times in our lives and events that happen in our world. This was my time to remember a happy time a year ago. If you don’t like it or think it was bad of me to do that, I really don’t care.

By the way, Happy New Year.